About God’s Will and Right Sexual Conduct

So many youngsters are worried about finding God’s will. In today’s world they are more in confusion about right sexual conduct.

The Bible speaks about this in very clear terms.

Flee.

That means run away from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18, 2 Tim 2:22). So do not stay in a place, situation or in front of your computer or mobile where you expose yourself to temptation. Joseph ran out of the house when he was tempted sexually (Genesis 39:12).

Avoid that Lustful Look.

The eye is the gate through which most sexual temptations are welcomed and entertained. Of course in today’s world you are confronted with sexually provocative pictures and images everywhere. It is possible to feast your eyes wrongly without anyone knowing it.

The argument is that you are not hurting anyone as all this is in your mind alone. But Jesus said, “anyone who looks lustfully at a woman has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28).

Hide.

It is not hiding from God after you sin that is meant. It is hiding God’s word in your heart. That alone will help you not to sin against God (Psalm 119:11). Unless you store up God’s word how can the Spirit of God bring that to your remembrance (John 14:26) and help you to use it as a sword to defeat the devil (Ephesians 6:17)? The more you stay away from reading God’s word regularly, the more easy it is for you to lust.

Finally, Be Honest with God.

Talk to him honestly about your sexual struggles. Name them by its right name: Masturbation voyeurism, pornography, sexual fantasies, fetishes, incestuous thoughts, emotionally involved and sexually explicit chats, and so on. Why is this important?

It is important because you have in Jesus someone who is able to understand you fully, thoroughly, completely and absolutely like no one else. He was tempted while on earth; and that includes sexual temptations as well. So he understands the pressure in your mind as you struggle against temptation. Therefore he is able to help you when you are being tempted (Hebrews 2:18).

But Jesus never sinned. That also means that temptation is not sin. Some are so worried when lustful thoughts pound at your mind. It is only when you stop fighting against it that you open the door for sin to enter in.

Now the Bible encourages us to approach the throne of grace (please note it is not the throne of judgement) with confidence. Yes, with confidence. Some translations say “boldly”! So that you will receive mercy and find grace that will help you in your need which includes sexual temptation. (Read Hebrews 4:15, 16).

My dear friend, the simplest thing you can do now is to tell God your sexual struggle and ask, “Lord, help me.” David’s prayers when he had repented of his adultery is also helpful: “Have mercy on me, O God” and “Create in me a pure heart, O God” (Psalm 51:1, 10).

And never forget that the cleansing fountain (Zechariah 13:1) of the blood of Jesus shall cleanse you. Ask God to wash you clean by his precious blood (1 John 1:7). Right now.

Remember God loves you. You might have told God to give you one more chance for you to be good. And you might have failed a thousand times. Still God loves you. He does not approve of your sin but he loves you.

Run to Jesus every time you fall. Do not stay away from him. And you will experience his forgiving love. He will not give up on you. He says, “You are mine (Isaiah 43:1z)!