God knows all about sex. He talks honestly about sex-issues in the Bible. At first reading one might be shocked why such things are in the Bible. Instead of dismissing that thought, continue to think: Why has God talked about sex so much in the Bible?
This is because men and women made sex an end in itself. They made it an idol in their lives. They crossed God-made boundaries for sexual relations. They degraded their bodies by violating God-given commands. Sexual impurity, shameful lusts, unnatural relations all ruled their minds and bodies. The Bible says that they received in themselves the due penalty for their perversions.
When Jesus came, He gave the real essence of God-given laws of sexual conduct. He said: “I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Then the question is, “Is it practically possible to avoid the lustful look in this sex-saturated world?” It is not at all easy. But pray that God will give you grace to take captive every thought and make it obedient to Christ.
God has given the right context for sex in marriage. The marriage bed should be kept pure. The human body can be appreciated and enjoyed in such a God-ordained way. Song of Songs is an expression of such a joy. Jesus also pointed out the fact that a man and woman in marriage becomes one flesh. That means there is a great bonding in marriage through sexual expression.
The best thing to know is that God is not ashamed to deal with sex and related issues. Since He is your creator you can talk to Him about these things too. This is shocking to you, isn’t it? But has not God talked about sex so much in the Bible? Does He care less about things that trouble you about sex? No. He cares and He understands your struggles and temptations; your willingness to do right when alone, but finding yourself doing what you do not want to do.
He is a forgiving God. The blood of His Son Jesus purifies you from all sin. He is filled with compassion towards you. Seek His help. He will heal your fragmented mind; assure you that you are accepted and loved as you are with all your failures and shortcomings in this area. But He wants you to leave your life of sin. For He is holy! He will judge those who continue to be sexually immoral.
For most people, the renewing of the mind to think pure and noble and lovely thoughts instead of lustful and impure thoughts takes time. The struggle is real. Much reading of God’s Word and hiding it in the heart, prayer in the authority of Jesus’ Name, cleansing through Jesus’ blood, the indwelling presence and power of the Holy Spirit, the prayer, encouragement and spiritual support of one or two committed friends are all agents in the healing process of a broken self in the area of sex. Through all this God restores wholeness in the life of a person who has been ripped apart in his or her sexuality.
The greatest struggle comes to those who have been violated and sexually abused by others. To them finding security in the love of God is a struggle. Forgiving someone who had hurt them is yet another struggle. To believe that God has accepted them with all their feelings of hurt, inferiority and inadequacy is a further struggle. These struggles are real.
May these words of Jeremiah as others put him to sink in a muddy pit bring consolation to your soul:
“I called on your name, O Lord, from the depths of the pit. You heard my plea: `Do not close your ears to my cry for relief.’ You came near when I called you, and you said, “Do not fear.”